Updated December 6, 2025, December 16, 2025, December 29,2025, Feb.2/26

(Short version far below)

The Problem

I don’t believe helping others is a problem. I’m just naturally generous. I love solving other people’s problems: helping them out, offering advice, giving them things. I do it even if they aren’t asking me to.

I feel tense if I don’t. And I feel hurt, baffled, even angry if they refuse my help, no matter how politely. I only show these negative feelings if I know others won’t reject me forever. Lucky them.

However, there is a condition to my helping: I only help when it’s easy to see or do. For example, if something is messy,  I see how to organize it;  dirty, clean it. If a person is upset, calm down. If hurt or sad, cheer them up.

But I can’t go one more thought, like to the cause of a problem that’s more complex than child-like simple. I’m scared of failing.

The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr – problem solving response.

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