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The Seeing Sequence Meets My Love of Distractions

Updated Feb.2/26
(Short version far below)

The Problem

I love distractions. Because I love that feeling of relief from tension when I look for them and find easy ones to solve or to go with. I like to look for them, but the best distractions are those that come in unbidden, loaded with pleasure; like my favourite food when I’m hungry; Or changing my mind at the last moment when something good crosses my path.

The problem with my love of distractions is how scattered I can be. Everyone gets tired of me doing it. Even me.

The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr – problem solving response.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets My Compulsively Helping You

Updated December 6, 2025, December 16, 2025, December 29,2025, Feb.2/26

(Short version far below)

The Problem

I don’t believe helping others is a problem. I’m just naturally generous. I love solving other people’s problems: helping them out, offering advice, giving them things. I do it even if they aren’t asking me to.

I feel tense if I don’t. And I feel hurt, baffled, even angry if they refuse my help, no matter how politely. I only show these negative feelings if I know others won’t reject me forever. Lucky them.

However, there is a condition to my helping: I only help when it’s easy to see or do. For example, if something is messy,  I see how to organize it;  dirty, clean it. If a person is upset, calm down. If hurt or sad, cheer them up.

But I can’t go one more thought, like to the cause of a problem that’s more complex than child-like simple. I’m scared of failing.

The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr – problem solving response.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Your Shyness

Updated December 6, 2025, Dec.29/25, Feb. 2/26

(Short versions far below)

The Problem

You’re shy. As a result you’re blocked from trying to connect to me. I know it’s temporary. But It triggers in me boredom, then detached amateur analysis, then, worst of all, doing the work of connecting for you.

The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr – problem solving response.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Fear of Creativity

Updated December 6, 2025; December 29, 2025, Feb.2/56

(Short version far below)

The Problem

I attack my creative thoughts. Just like I attack my happiness.

The attacks take the form of finding a flaw, especially the flaw that my creative thought will fail – predicting failure.

Another way of describing this: I edit my creative thoughts in order to solve my fear created by my predicting failure.

I do this so often, I think it’s normal editing. But it isn’t, because normal editing is solving real faults that lead to improvement that leads to externalizing. Psr editing solves imaginary faults after I’ve already solved the real ones. The editing leads me to externalizing prs’s instead of my true response.

The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr – problem solving response.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Memory Self-attacks

Updated December 6, 2025; December 29, 2025; Feb. 2/26

(Short version far below)

The Problem

I attack my memory and convince myself it must be wrong.

Result:

  • I waste a lot of time double and triple checking my memory.
  • In order to check, I put myself through a lot of work that borders on silly, or eccentric, or crazy.
  • I avoid any memory work by constantly looking for things to discover that I  understand and remember easily.
  • I fool myself by calling this learning, but learning requires memory work, which is: I put it into memory by repeating it and testing if I remember.
  • I judge memory work as inferior. And so it follows that I feel like a fool when I do memory work.
  • I can work hard, and I’m a good person. But I only can do unskilled or low skilled and therefore low-paying jobs for my allowance or my living.
  • When I try to get ahead at school or at work, I have to work 10 times harder than everyone else.
  • I always feel inferior to others who can learn and work faster than me.
  • Not to mention that I often fear or am jealous of them.
The Cause

Not upbringing, not experiences. Instead, psr’s. Psr = inappropriate or imaginary problem solving response. It’s not real solving of real stuff. Ipsr is too long and doesn’t roll off the tongue well, so … psr.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Revenge

Updated December 6, 2025; Feb. 2/26
(Short version far below)
The Problem

I have been hurt by you more than you would ever imagine. It’s not that you can’t imagine my pain. It’s that you won’t and will do everything you can not to, as you always have.

The only thing that eases my pain is fantasies of revenge. In these fantasies, I hurt you as much and more than you hurt me. But my relief is quickly followed by images of everything that could go wrong with my revenge, especially images of you countering my efforts and hurting me again.

My pain has kept coming back into my days and nights.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Mood Swings

Updated November 25, 2025, Jan 19, 2026; Feb.. 3/26

(Short version far below )

The Problem

This glass I just drank from, still in my hand, I think of washing.

Predictions of failure immediately come into my mind: failure to wash in one easy try, or it will be boring, or I’ll have to waste time drying my hands, or all of these one after the other.

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The Seeing Sequence Meets Clumsiness, Including Injury Proneness.

Updated November 19. 2025; December 6, 2025, Feb.3/26
(Short version far below )
The Problem

I drop things, spill things, bump into things, break things, choke on things and misplace things. I’m clumsy. I never thought of myself that way until someone told me. Then I saw it in all movement that I didn’t need to pay close attention to. I could climb any tree, walk on any roof without mishap. But I couldn’t wash dishes without bumping them, without splattering the water, without occasionally dropping one. And I often injured myself mildly, and sometimes worse, while playing sports or working with tools.

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