The "easiest" way to change
Last checked for editing: January 22/2025. None needed. So far, it’s timeless.
I’m always hearing I have to learn to be less anxious. But it’s all wrong. I was born this way. And I can’t unlearn it. So I don’t need to tell myself not to be afraid. That just makes it worse and adds guilt that I failed to stop the fear. Now I’m afraid of being afraid.
And there’s more.
Is:
Isn’t:
Update completed November 12, 2025
I have a negative feeling. My response: I fight it. I oppose it. I treat it as a problem, which triggers my brain to solve it. Fighting is a type of solving. Opposing is a type of solving. Solving is a type of opposing. I can call my response whatever I want. But if the response is anything other than observing it, I’m solving it, usually by fighting it.
If my response to a negative feeling it to fight it, that is, if I have a problem-solving response (psr) to it, the negative feeling comes back. For example, if I try not to be angry, I get more angry. If I try not to feel the pain of failure, I feel it more. Why? Why can’t I control my feelings?
Updated May 9/2024, March 6/2025, May 9/2025, Aug 20/2025
I don’t need to know why the Seeing Sequence works in order to do it. While I may want to know why, understanding will not, at all, help me change, or make me work at change.
See Summary below for the short version of this post.
The main “why” thing to know is this: Ignoring is the pivotal event in my life.
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