Updated November 5, 2025

I have a negative feeling. My response: I fight it. I oppose it. I treat it as a problem, which triggers my brain to solve it. Fighting is a type of solving. Opposing is a type of solving. Solving is a type to opposing. I can call my response whatever I want. But if the response is anything other than observing it, I’m solving it, usually by fighting it.

If I fight a negative feeling, that is, if I have a problem-solving response (psr) to it, the negative feeling comes back.  For example, if I try not to be angry, I get more angry. If I try not to feel the pain of failure, I feel it more.  Why? Why can’t I control my feelings?

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